Working as a dentist .. I come in contact with many people.. almost of all ages. From a kid to a grand mother. Recently I was treating a patient, a granny of considerable age. She was here for a short period of time. After tons of problem I could finally get her work done. Grannies are usually hard to tackle, trust me! But there was this thing she always did, she always hugged me after the end of an appointment. Well.. when at the end of a tiring session if you get this warm hug full of love from a granny, you feel a bit lighter. I often kept thinking about her. I live with my granny. And I found one thing so common amongst them. All the grannies and grandads have a thing in common. Those eyes!
As we all know, as per biological aging our life has been divided in to periods such as infancy, teenage, youth, adulthood, old age. Different names according to different classifications. There is some unique thing about each age group. No I m not talking about biology here!
I might just put up my own classification about phases of life. On the basis of what I saw. We change through out our lives. Our soul undergoes transformation. What we are, what we become! All depends on our environment and how we respond and adapt to that. But everything that happens to your soul, reflects in your eyes.
When a child is born, it is introduced to the world. Just like the sprout coming out of seed. The first page of a blank notebook. The uncut diamond. when you see in a child’s eyes. You won’t see seven wonders of world.. you will see seven million. They don’t have past, neither future they just know present.Their souls are clean and fresh like a daisy. It reflects in their eyes. They are happy without reason. They have the one most valuable thing reflecting in their eyes. Innocence!
“Everytime a child is born , the world is renewed in innocence. “
When the child turns in to a teenager. His brain starts to perceive things around himself. There is a thirst to know everything he sees. To learn everything around him. They are not afraid to explore anything, poke at anything, or question anything. They have a unique spark in their eyes. Curiosity!
“ Curiosity is the quality that urges a child to keep on finding out more, to connect actions with outcomes, people with feelings. Wondering why is the powerful engine that drives discovery. “
– Dr Stanley Greenspan.
After the teenage , child enters the most delightful phase of life. The Youth. It is a wonderful thing, like a hot flush. The hot days of ending summer. You see some kind of energy, a kind of power that can change anything. Their eyes are full of dreams . Big and small. Their eyes are ocean where their dreams are reflected. They have the special twinkle in their eyes. Dreams!
” How beautiful is the Youth! How bright it gleams with its illusions, aspirations and dreams! Book of Beginnings , Story without End, Each maiden a heroine, Each man a friend! “
– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.
After the Youth comes the adulthood. The kid that was dreaming , now sees differently. This transition to adulthood shakes the core of his soul. He realizes that he is solely responsible for himself. Priorities change. There comes a point where finally the dream breaks and you are touched by reality. Quality replaces quantity. As an adult, the person wants a future not just a for now.Dreams are replaced by responsibilities. Looking at those eyes, the fire and dreams are gone. You find a mildness and soberness. Their thinking change! The soul change! Eyes lack those twinkles and shine. A glimpse of fear appears in the eyes along with some control and maturity.Responsibilities!
” Great challenge of Adulthood is holding on to your idealism after you loose your innocence “
As the adulthood ages further, comes the old age. The age of wisdom. When you see the eyes of your granny. They might seem dull at first but holding on your glance for just some more you’ll see a book of stories and experiences,Wisdom and knowledge . Each wrinkle has its own story. You realize as the age grows that it wasn’t all about what you look like or what you own, it was all about the person you’ve become. It reflects in those eyes. Wisdom!
“Beautiful young peoples are accidents of nature. But beautiful old people are works of art.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt.
So through out the life you are exposed to certain changes. You adapt to some, some leave a mark on your soul. The process of transition of your soul reflects in your eyes. Observe a kid , a young girl, an adult, a granny.. look in to their eyes. You will see the story there. Our life is like a poem which begins in delight and ends in wisdom. So embrace each phase that passes by. Every individual has to undergo change of phases . World is made up of different people in their respective different phases of life. Each learning from the other. Each teaching some thing to other. That’s how we live!
And everyday, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling,” this is important! And this is important ! You need to worry about these.”
And each day it’s upto you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, ” No! This is what’s important. ! “