Life and Death

There I am! Finally…! Getting some peaceful hours today! Life sometimes has its own plans for you and you can’t help but be occupied. Today there is this lazy morning I m getting after a long time.. and so as usual I couldn’t help but write. 
Birthday…The day we are born in to this world.. the day when we first open our eyes and look at the world .. our fate is decided that day. The day a life begins.. it’s journey towards the end begins… Anything that has a life is sure to die. A life is born, it survives the atmosphere… It adapts.. it thrives.. it succeeds … It fails… It ages… And finally the destination.. it ends! 

Why is death so feared then? Why we fear to die? Why we fear someone’s death? We all know in back of our mind that it is going to end someday! 
It is the fear of unknown. It’s like thinking that we are being wise without actually being wise. No one knows what death is like. Those who know are not here to describe.  It could be the best thing happening, instead of the biggest evil that we consider it to be.

We only fear loss of life.. loss of what we have and loss of unfulfilled desires and wishes. We fear what we are going to do if the person is lost forever. We fear the absence of life instead of the presence of death. The boundaries which divides life and death are shadowy and vague, we don’t know where what ends and what begins.. We fear death more than pain. In fact , death is the ultimate medicine of all the pains.

 There won’t be any human that wouldn’t be afraid of death. Any living being is afraid of death. The fear is same as a kid fearing going in to the dark. He has heard tales that evil resides in the dark. He is fearing the unknown in the dark. But as soon as he reaches understanding age it vanishes.So is with us, we fear death when we are young. We fear the loss, we fear the unknown. But as soon as we reach nearer the age, we begin to understand that your life was just a part ,a teeny weeny part in this whole universe. You were just playing your part. Noone else could take your place. You would have affected many lives, you would have ended some hopes, rejuvenated some…But, Death was destined. 

So it’s just matter of time that you understand it. Till than this fear can be redirected in to enjoying your life. Unfulfilled desires, wishes, checklists, etc don’t keep them waiting. Never do that! Get your ass moving! Death is not tragic, but what we let die inside of us while alive is tragic. Fulfill your wishes in this one life, affect the hearts of people in this one life time. So that when you do die, you don’t have to get reincarnated again to fullfil them. 🤣😉😆

A day well spent gives a happy sleep, 

A life well spent gives a happy death

Independence : An issue ?

I recently came across on a post by a friend on street harassment. It’s almost an everyday issue nowadays that girls even ladies or old Grandmas are molested and harrased in our country. May it be anywhere. You are seriously one in a billion lucky if you haven’t gone through any of that. 
I just over heard a conversation today. Two ladies , both of them well educated, well known and respectable in their professions, were talking about some girl 22- 23 years of age.  They were talking about how the girl’s parents are doing the right thing by finding a good match for her at this age. And also how after reaching at the age of 25 a girl starts becoming independent and then it creates a problem to adjust and marry. Hearing them talking like this, kept me pondering about it all day long..

Women empowerment! Many people have been talking about that now a days in India. What is empowerment of women?! In what the empowerment lies?!  Now according to me , creating a society where a women has independence to make her decisions on her own for personal benefits or the society is women empowerment. To most of us this holds true. What is the threat to women empowerment?! Only men?! Hearing the above conversation, no.. men and women equally threatens women empowerment. Any thought that hinders the independence and thoughts of women is a threat to women empowerment. 

Street harrasment, Eve teasing, molestation at work place all are a different aspect altogether. I want to talk about the other part. A girl , since she is born, is constantly fighting for her rights here. Her independence is constantly being controlled, sometimes in the name of protection and sometimes in the name of duties. 

We talk about the things that happens outside on the streets , but hey what about our own people we live in between? Hearing the above ladies talk like this, it occured to me that, why is that so? Why is the independence of girl looked upon that way? Shouldnt she have the call to make decisions about herself? Isn’t she capable? She might want to study further, she might even want to take a job and achieve her goals in life, she even might want to marry and settle down. But hey, it’s her call to make. Why would her independence not lead to a good life to her?

What is wrong with people? Why is that so? After reaching an age of 25, why is every girl’s parents having a line of tension on their forehead? Even if they are at peace , the society don’t let them. Why is a girl burden after 25? Why a father is never at peace when his daughter turns 25?  Why can’t a girl be at peace once she reach 25..? Why can’t she persue her dreams of being free? Why cant she settle down once she feels like?

A girl when given wings can fly like a bird. A girl when given right shoes can explore a path that you’ve never imagined. A girl when given the independence can work wonders! So much things are hyped about women empowerment. Women empowerment doesn’t lay in raising a voice against it lays in respecting a lady, her thoughts, and her independence. If she wants to she will be a home maker , and if she aspires to be a corporate worker she will be that, if she wants to settle she will, be it.. let it be her decisions and only hers. Why has she to look and think about society while making her decisions? Why she fears a constant judging?  If she does what she likes, she has to hear that she is given too much Independence. What is too much Independence? It’s either there or not. There is nothing like too much in it. Tell her when she is wrong . But don’t just pull her down because of what society will think.

Women empowerment will be there only when there would be a change in people’s thought and they will stop idealizing the behaviour of women. Independence of speech, expression, work , breathing, living is a basic right every human is born with. And we deny them to a women in name of customs, protections, duties, respect, fear. 

What if she has her own job? Can pay her own bills? Doesn’t need to depend on anyone else for a living? Has her own dreams? That would make her not worthy to marry or adjust? You know what, it simply means she doesn’t need your money to live with you, she will look upon a healthy relationship and not just a dominance and submission. She will be eligible to take care of her own and would also be able to look upon to world and contribute to its progress.
 A simple change in thought is needed. How is independence of a girl an issue?

Priority, Protesting, Personal gain or sacrifice!

Life.. what makes a life? Oxygen, circulation, blood, conscious state and an active brain. Uh well, that’s what we learn in science! But for a science student there is this part ,the science behind the life part and then there is the other part where life is due to surroundings and the people they interact to. And let’s forget about the science part of the life here!

Peaceful life to a normal human being is a perfect balance of their outer surrounding and inner thoughts. If both are in balance. There is peace. Now , outer surrounding includes the people they interact with, the people they love, the work they do, the friends they achieve or loose. And, Their inner thoughts include their ambitions, their dreams, their goals, their expectations, ways of happiness. When both are in harmony. A person is at peace. But if any one gets affected. Oops! You end up messed!

What can go wrong? Anything! Cz if peace includes this long list of things then obviously , even if we try our best and make no mistakes on our part, remember there are other people out there that can affect us. Human is a social being. Willingly or unwillingly! He has to interact with people around!

We dream, We have ambitions, We have our little world inside us! We work for achieving those things constantly. There sometimes comes a situation where we have to decide priorities against our own selves. There might be a situation where the other person that is an integral part of our life gets in between.

What if he demands his priorities against yours? What if your happiness and ambitions are overlooked if you go according to the person’s wish? Well in this situation , your mind will strongly rebel and protest against the doing of the person . Chaos will be created. You will be hanging between a thin line of personal gain and loosing it without any relevance. You know the person is having selfish motto behind. And he just is expressing his frustration over you. He might be in a bad condition over all. And it’s just mirrored in his doings.

What if you know that you are right and the person is just in anger? That it will not matter anymore when everything is alright with him. And you still will loose things after that. Personally, I was in one situation. And Yeah i made a mess . But as they say mistakes always teach you something at a cost. I paid the cost but I learnt a lesson of life time.

So what I learnt? In these situations, we should decide the priorities. Between personal gain and the person’s wish. Many a times , we are put in to this situation by the only ones that are nearer and dearer to us. What then?! Protesting is not the smart idea here. Trust me! You need to let go of some of your personal gains here. Wait till the other person is alright. You have to let go of your dreams and ambitions sometimes. Just to make the person that is dearer to you feel in power. Not because you are weak to protest. But you are sensible and understanding enough not to. You have to bow down at the time, just to make the person realize he is important than your ambition. This won’t make you weak no! Neither it will make you unable to take a stand and all. It will just make you wiser. You can always shine later! Understanding when to take a stand and when to bow down is the real trick!

Convey things with a smile sometimes, 

Avoid fights with a smile sometimes,

Problems are many,

With you and some with me,

But decide somethings over time! 

May be there won’t be a person to make you smile tomorrow,

So make today count with him,

Learn to compromise for somethings,

Cz maybe Bowing down is better than loosing a relation!

Smile with someone,

And fight too with equal right!

Learn to wipe the tears of dear ones,

What respect and disrespect in a relationship or friendship?

Just learn to live in the heart of others!

Protest

Sacred Humanity!

Sacred? What does that mean? Well we all know what that means .. it’s that one thing that connects us directly to the God.  We know all this right?.. no need to define those terms again and again. But do we really know the meaning?

Temples, Churches and Mosques are sacred. A book is sacred to some and a flower to some other. Million people million sacred things. Well to me sacred is something else then this. 

“If you want to see the brave,

Look to those who can return love for hatred

If you want to see the heroic,

Look to those  who can forgive. “

-Bhagwat Geeta

“The man who sees me in everything
and everything within me
will not be lost to me, nor
will I ever be lost to him.

He who is rooted in oneness
realizes that I am
in every being; wherever
he goes, he remains in me.

When he sees all being as equal
in suffering or in joy
because they are like himself,
that man has grown perfect in yoga.”

-Bhagwat Geeta

These were some of the words I recently came across while reading Bhagwad Geeta. You can read other verses from Bhagwat Geeta here . It’s a sacred book for hinduism. But well , apart from these things I really want to tell about what is the most sacred thing in the world.
What is the God’s greatest creation? Yes! We humans! He gave us speech to express, feelings to feel, love to share, and intelligent minds to thrive and survive. So what would be the most sacred thing in the world? From my point of view using all these boons we’ve got in to welfare of others! Is the most sacred thing on earth!
Try giving a flower to someone a morning, a chocolate to any kid (umm I still am a dentist, try to give a balloon instead  nevermind!), try to hug and greet an old lady, lend a hand to some one In need, give a shoulder to someone who is crying, help your maid in the chores or just simply talk to a person. You never know your which act will influence or even make someone’s rough day a bit lighter. 

There is nothing more sacred than showing and practicing humanity. The dearest to the God are his creations. And if we do something to make the creations beautiful, what would be more sacred than that. 

I’ll insist not to loose faith in humanity. Yes! World these days is not fair. People have turned their backs down on humanity. War, terrorism, exploitation, and what not. It’s like there in every headline of every newspaper every day. But just because there are few dirty drops in the ocean, Ocean won’t get dirty. Here we are the ocean. It’s upto us to keep the humanity alive . It’s us who are gifted this beautifully with power of expression and words, also the power of imaginative mind! Can’t we just put that and make atleast one person smile? How beautiful the world is!  Just for once make someone realize that! Smile at them with your brightest one and tell me if they don’t give it back! Sacred is the one that connects you to god! And yes! There is nothing better than this i guess! 

Sacred is the heart of human that still beats humanity….